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Wellness Wednesday

I've been thinking a lot lately about living authentically. As you all know oh-so-well, with yoga I've really started to dive deeper into my being and developed more of an understanding of who I am, what my needs are, my dislikes, my goals, and so on... I'll be taking another trip around the sun in about a month and therefore I've been reflecting more on my life. Facebook also forces me to do this on a daily basis, with those "memories" that pop up...I have so many thoughts on this but will refrain.

Turning another year older is a privilege; each year we learn from our experiences and cultivate more awareness about ourselves and the world around us. It's beautiful, but can also be heartbreaking, if we're gunna get real with it. 

I remember being 15 and thinking, this is the person I am and will be forever. I remember being 18 and thinking the same thing; I remember being 20 living in Paris thinking the same thing; I remember getting married at 27 and thinking the same thing. 

However, the reality is that we are ever-changing and not fixed. We are constantly molded by our experiences, whether they be day-to-day events or rock-you-senseless-to-your-core moments. Feelings and goals and passions and thoughts can change on a daily basis...

Thus, living authentically is living in the present moment. It's honoring your being, your soul, in each present moment, without judgment. It's allowing yourself (with respect to others) to be yourself. 

It cannot be influenced by others; I'm a romantic existentialist, and I believe we are inevitably alone - as they say, we are born alone and we die alone. Our experience is only our own, therefore our authentic selves can only be shaped by ourselves and our perceived experience, not by anyone or anything else. 

Make the time to take a moment to be present, to breathe deeply and engage your five senses and come into that sweet present moment.

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...in this moment is where you'll find your authentic self.

- S

[Women's] Wellness Wednesday

Today is International Women's Day (the reason you're seeing the hashtag #DayWithoutAWoman everywhere), and also Wellness Wednesday. I'm going to keep it relatively simple for this WW post: all I ask is that for today we all together practice kindness and patience.

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When you want to react to someone or something today, pause and reflect. Breathe deeply in and out. If you feel yourself becoming annoyed or angry or someone pushes your buttons, pause and reflect. Breathe deeply in and out. If you make a mistake at your work or at home, you spill something or drop something, pause and reflect. Breathe deeply in and out. If you find yourself mad about the weather or something else which is temporary, pause and reflect. Breathe deeply in and out.

Today is not the day to be negative.

Today I will be kind.
Today I will be patient.
Today I will offer compassion to myself and others.
Today I will love and accept all.

Pause and reflect. Breathe deeply in and out.

Love.

- S

Wellness Wednesday

The other night on the train ride home from work I noticed a man talking very loudly and inappropriately on his cell phone, basically breaking nearly every rule of good manners (shoving people to get on and off the train, holding the door open despite the doors closing, etc). My initial impulsive reaction was to passive aggressively send him dirty looks, but the weirdest thing happened: a teeny tiny voice inside of me whispered "balance it out." 

immediately felt my body physically soften, and I returned my focus onto me. I realized I had a choice: allow his behavior to sabotage my evening and make me feel crappy; or I could balance out his negativity. 

How?

I committed myself to offering kindness on my walk home. 

I know, it sounds so hippie-dippy and you're probably reading this rolling your eyes, but listen! It's kind of amazing. I made the conscious decision to not allow someone else to dictate my feelings, and I made the conscious decision to put some balance out into the world by offering some positivity. 

If you're a yogi like me, you believe that all human beings are connected. My actions thoughts, behaviors, and actions affect other people, whether I am aware of it or not.

Being presented with any form of negativity is an opportunity to balance it out with positivity.

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I know!!! Right?! It's almost mind-blowing. When you shift your perspective, suddenly emotions seem much more fluid and fleeting. 

The next time you find yourself falling into the negativity trap, balance it out. Take a breath. Counteract that negativity with compassion and kindness toward others. Send that positivity out into the universe! (It's listening.)

- S

Wellness Wednesday

You may have noticed my silence on this blog for the past few months. It has been a bit harder lately to find inspiration, but I'm also finding that I have had more moments where I crave going inward, being quiet, avoiding too much stimulation. (I also came down with a cold Saturday, so that's forced some isolation, too)

I had so many emails piling up since the holidays and over the weeks have been weeding through emails. I found this article in particular to be thought-provoking, and I'm not one to be super into celebrities. I also found this article helpful, but be forewarned: it's political.

Given what I mentioned above, I've been trying to actively take steps back from social media and the news when I need to. This is not to say I am choosing to be blissfully unaware of what's going on, but it's quite the contrary: I'm still taking time to check up on my curated news feed on my phone, and I'm grateful to have a solid group of friends/women/peers who are like-minded and post relevant, informative, and empowering posts on social media. The difference is that I'm not overloading myself and inhaling every bit of information without breathing out fully.

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On this Wellness Wednesday, I invite you to disengage for a bit from social media. Maybe you're overloaded about politics, or plain-old over seeing people put out their idyllic-albeit-faux life...so take a break. I recently deleted Facebook from my phone and it's been quite freeing! Sure, I had FOMO the first day or two, and then I realized it was a fleeting, temporary emotion. There was life before Facebook, guys.

We've talked about this before, the aimless and mindless scrolling; now, let's stop with the overload of information. Let's make eye contact with people when we talk to them. Let's raise our heads and look at the world. Let's eat a meal or go to bed without our phone in our hand. Let's lay on the couch upside down to get a new perspective, like my cats do. Let's be ok with going inward and shielding ourselves for a little bit from the world; we need to take care of ourselves.

And honestly, there's nothing wrong with spending time with yourself - you are this one soul, one life in this one lifetime, better to enjoy it.

- S